Itâ€™s a tricky topic and we all have feelings about it.
I mentioned last week that friendship has been at the forefront of my mind recently because I spent 5 solid days with two women Iâ€™m so close with that we could easily be sisters. We had zero fights and so much fun together that I was hugging them a little too tightly when they left (not sorry!) and wishing we had another 5 days together.
My backstory is that I grew up with a brother (weâ€™re so close that we own a house together) and all boy cousins until I was about 10 so I rarely played with makeup or did so-called girly things. My summers were spent watching WWF wresting and building forts and my childhood idol was Mr. T just to give you an idea of what a tomboy I was. While that made me tough and good with putting up with boy antics (haha), I now realize that having relationships with other women is so important.
As an adult, having that component of female friendship in my life and experiencing firsthand what a difference it has personally made with everything from staying positive to achieving goals to feeling support during difficult times made me wonder how you guys feel about friendship.
Friendship is something most of us long to have in our lives but even if youâ€™re lucky enough to be overflowing with close friends, there tends to be some complications:
â€¢ Maybe youâ€™ve had a tight-knit group of friends since childhood but due to growing and evolving, your common interests have changed and youâ€™ve grown apart.
â€¢ Maybe your best friends live in a different city, state or country (my biggest issue).
â€¢ Maybe you had a falling out with the friend you were closest with and have issues with trust.
â€¢ Or, maybe youâ€™re a bit of a lone wolf and choose to go it aloneâ€¦but secretly wish you had someone who gets you and accepts you exactly for who you are.
I have a handful of close friends in Portland (whatâ€™s up, Pam, Joey and Erik?!) but the rest of my friends are scattered far and wide. Gala and Bianca live in New York while Star lives in San Francisco and Mary Bee lives in LA. All of these friends are amazing â€” and we always pick back up right where we left off, even if we havenâ€™t spoken for 6 months. Life gets busy but we donâ€™t miss a beat. One coffee date and a few hours later and itâ€™s like we were never apart.
I also have a wonderful husband, pets and family members to keep me occupied but occasionally, those lonely feelings do hit. A text message or phone call isnâ€™t quite the same and I sometimes wish all my friends lived in the same city as I do. Now, that would be fun!
Letâ€™s be honest, though â€” finding friends who â€œgetâ€ you and your eccentricities as an adult can be hard. The truth is that I was only able to find my core tribe (and meet all of you!) through blogging and thatâ€™s easily been the most rewarding thing thatâ€™s come out of sharing in this space.
What about you?
Is friendship something youâ€™re struggling with?
Or, on the other hand, are you doing amazingly well with it?
Spill the beans and let me know in the comments!
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