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Thoughts On Friendship

Nubby Twiglet | Thoughts On Friendship

Friendship.

It’s a tricky topic and we all have feelings about it.

I mentioned last week that friendship has been at the forefront of my mind recently because I spent 5 solid days with two women I’m so close with that we could easily be sisters. We had zero fights and so much fun together that I was hugging them a little too tightly when they left (not sorry!) and wishing we had another 5 days together.

My backstory is that I grew up with a brother (we’re so close that we own a house together) and all boy cousins until I was about 10 so I rarely played with makeup or did so-called girly things. My summers were spent watching WWF wresting and building forts and my childhood idol was Mr. T just to give you an idea of what a tomboy I was. While that made me tough and good with putting up with boy antics (haha), I now realize that having relationships with other women is so important.

As an adult, having that component of female friendship in my life and experiencing firsthand what a difference it has personally made with everything from staying positive to achieving goals to feeling support during difficult times made me wonder how you guys feel about friendship.

Nubby Twiglet | Thoughts On Friendship

Friendship is something most of us long to have in our lives but even if you’re lucky enough to be overflowing with close friends, there tends to be some complications:

• Maybe you’ve had a tight-knit group of friends since childhood but due to growing and evolving, your common interests have changed and you’ve grown apart.

• Maybe your best friends live in a different city, state or country (my biggest issue).

• Maybe you had a falling out with the friend you were closest with and have issues with trust.

• Or, maybe you’re a bit of a lone wolf and choose to go it alone…but secretly wish you had someone who gets you and accepts you exactly for who you are.

Nubby Twiglet | Thoughts On Friendship

I have a handful of close friends in Portland (what’s up, Pam, Joey and Erik?!) but the rest of my friends are scattered far and wide. Gala and Bianca live in New York while Star lives in San Francisco and Mary Bee lives in LA. All of these friends are amazing — and we always pick back up right where we left off, even if we haven’t spoken for 6 months. Life gets busy but we don’t miss a beat. One coffee date and a few hours later and it’s like we were never apart.

I also have a wonderful husband, pets and family members to keep me occupied but occasionally, those lonely feelings do hit. A text message or phone call isn’t quite the same and I sometimes wish all my friends lived in the same city as I do. Now, that would be fun!

Let’s be honest, though — finding friends who “get” you and your eccentricities as an adult can be hard. The truth is that I was only able to find my core tribe (and meet all of you!) through blogging and that’s easily been the most rewarding thing that’s come out of sharing in this space.

What about you?

Is friendship something you’re struggling with?

Or, on the other hand, are you doing amazingly well with it?

Spill the beans and let me know in the comments!


Photos: Made U Look Photography.

Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Awhile back, I shared my vow renewal photos here which were taken in honor of my 5 year wedding anniversary with Joey. Back in 2010, after just 9 months of dating, we eloped to Vegas with my BFF Bianca without much of a game plan besides having a really good time — and I don’t regret a thing!

Five years later, we’d fallen in love with Palm Springs and decided to have a little vacation in a rented mid-century modern house for a few days with Made U Look Photography shooting photos so we’d always have those memories.

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Those photos are now featured in the current issue of Rock n Roll Bride Magazine, which is on newsstands and in grocery stores across the UK. You can also order a copy directly from the website.

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Rock n Roll Bride is a UK-based alternative wedding publication that’s ran by my friend, Kat and while designing a magazine has always been my dream career scenario, I never thought I’d end up featured in one!

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Being across the world from the magazine headquarters means that I don’t often see the current issue in print until it’s been out for a few weeks so having a stack show up on my doorstep a few days ago and being able to finally hand them out to family and friends has been completely surreal.

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

I was never very traditional when it came to weddings and was so overwhelmed with the choices related to my own, I didn’t even start planning. Running off to Vegas was the easiest solution! Now, having the opportunity to design Rock n Roll Bride has changed things for me because I see weddings completely differently. They can be as unique as the couple involved and have the potential to simply be an epic party instead of the stuffy occasions I remember attending as a kid! 😉

Nubby Twiglet | Rock n Roll Bride Issue 7 Feature

Being featured while simply wearing my original wedding dress and hanging out with Joey and Rocky has been a highlight of this year. It’s refreshing to be a part of a magazine that lets couples shine as themselves with no outside styling or demands. I’m glad a place like this exists for brides-to-be to realize that what they want, even if it’s a DIY backyard wedding or an elopement is totally fair game.

Check out more of issue 7 here!

2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 02

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Spring has finally sprung but I’m not so secretly counting down the days until my Palm Springs vacation with Joey and Rocky in 3 weeks so it feels fitting to be posting the second part of our vow renewal shoot today.

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Back in October, Joey and I rented a house to celebrate our 5 year anniversary (and if you missed the first set along with the story behind the shoot, read that first).

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

This second look was less stressful to shoot because we knew the “wedding look” for our Rock n Roll Bride Magazine feature was out of the way. We could have stopped there and called it a day but when you have a few extra hours left with some super talented photographers and a change of clothes, you push on!

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

I already had the dress on-hand, a full-length halter style by Vince Camuto that I’d spotted on a mannequin in Nordstrom two years earlier. I’d only ever worn the dress on past trips to Palm Springs because it was on the formal side and the open back was ideal for warmer weather. I also wore my original wedding shoes from the first look so it required nothing new.

Joey kept the same look as before but just switched out his tie. A few weeks before the shoot, I began to get nervous that we’d never find a match to the neon chartreuse stripe on my dress because it was so specific. I googled away, just trying to find something, anything that would work. Finally, I came across Zazzle and they had the exact color for custom ties. Score!

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

For this set of photos, since we didn’t need anything specific, we took it easy and walked around the grounds of our rented house with Rocky, definitely wishing it was ours. Ha!

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Lemon trees are still such a novelty to me. In Portland, we can grow meyer lemons but big, beautiful lemon trees like this just don’t happen. I felt like a citrus fruit goddess for a solid 5 minutes. 😉

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

As the morning turned into afternoon, I kept thinking about how glad I was that we’d invested in photos so we could look back on our 5 years together. Our time in Palm Springs flew by but thanks to the photos, our memories will last forever.

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Issue 7 of Rock n Roll Bride Magazine is now on sale and features a 10 page layout of our vow renewals. One feature I especially love is the “Steal Their Style” section at the end of every wedding that pulls together the details so you can source similar items with very little effort. Kat totally nailed ours!

Thanks for virtually coming along and reliving our special day with us! xo

Nubby Twiglet | The Palm Springs Vow Renewal

Photography: Made U Look
Location: Private residence, Palm Springs
My hair: Nathan at Salon 119
Joey’s look: Suit from Italia Suits, vegan Dr. Martens Gibson, Zazzle tie
My look: Vince Camuto dress, Camilla Skovgaard heels

2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

It’s hard to believe that these photos were shot back in October. Time flies! We had an exclusive with Rock n Roll Bride Magazine and now that the issue is available, I can show you EVERYTHING!

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

Joey and I wanted to do something special for our 5 year anniversary so a few weeks after throwing a party at our Portland house for family and friends, we packed our bags and flew to Palm Springs to celebrate.

The Backstory

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

The celebrating part this time around was important because we never had a honeymoon. In September 2010, just 9 months after meeting Joey for what I thought would be a one-time drink, we got married. Yes, it sounds crazy, but I knew it was the right thing to do. I’m an all-or-nothing sort of person and I didn’t see the point of waiting…so we took off to Vegas! Our only guest was my BFF Bianca and we lived it up.

Looking back, we had a tiny budget and planning a big wedding sounded like an absolute nightmare on top of my freelance schedule at the time so I was totally happy with our decision.

Five years later though, we wanted to do something special to commemorate the occasion. Plus, any excuse to visit Palm Springs (where we’re buying a place soon) is always a good idea. We simply secured our photographers, booked a beautiful house on Air bnb and booked our plane tickets. No stress.

The Look

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

The biggest expense for clothing was Joey’s suit, which he found at Italia Suits in Hollywood. The guy sized him up the second he walked in, pulled out the perfect skinny black suit and sent him down the street to an alterations place. It was literally that easy! He paired it with vegan black Dr. Martens and a tie he already had.

On the other hand, I wore my original dress from our Vegas wedding five years before, a total steal from Etsy that cost me less than $100.00. I’m still as obsessed with it now as I was then! I paired it with my original wedding shoes by Camilla Skovgaard, my favorite Forever 21 choker and some bracelets I’d found at Zara.

My style icon for the day was 60s-era Priscilla Presley who slayed with her long, dark back-combed hair and graphic eye makeup. Like Joey and I, her and Elvis had married in Vegas and then honeymooned in Palm Springs (remember the photos taken in front of their amazing hideaway?)

The Setting

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

I’ve had mixed experiences taking photos at hotels and other private properties around Palm Springs and didn’t want any stress with moving from multiple locations so I booked a house matching the color scheme we wanted with a large pool, lemon trees and a light-filled open floor plan. I highly recommend it (and check out that beautiful Tiffany blue room below!)

The Bouquet

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

I never had a bouquet at my original wedding so this time, I wanted to do something special. A few weeks before the shoot, I called Palm Springs Florist, hopped on Pinterest and emailed them some inspiration. The day of, they delivered the most perfect, spot-on bouquet.

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

I don’t recall exactly how much it cost ($170.00 or so including delivery?) but it was worth every penny. The succulents were such a nice touch and it held up all day. I couldn’t bear to throw it away so I packed it in our rental car, shooting as many photos with it over the next few days as possible.

The Invites

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

You probably know what I’m going to say next. No, we didn’t have invites for our original wedding (because we only had one guest!) so I wanted those, too. I’m OBSESSED with letterpress so I designed a simple invite for our backyard shindig a few weeks earlier and took the design to Darling Press who not only did a perfect printing job but also color painted the edges to match my second look, a dress with a chartreuse stripe. I still have one hanging up next to my desk! Invest in those keepsakes, friends.

The Veil

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01

Of course, I didn’t have a veil for my original wedding, either. Are you sensing a theme here?! LOL. Anyway, my timing for the vow renewal was perfect because my BFF Kat decided to release a veil collection with Crown and Glory.

Nubby Twiglet | 2010 Till Forevs: The Palm Springs Vow Renewal Part 01
I snapped up the custom slogan veil (emblazoned with FOREVS) and my absolute favorite, a pom pom trim version. SO GOOD.

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It’s Always Sunny In Palm Springs

Nubby Twiglet | It's Always Sunny In Palm Springs

To be totally honest, this post isn’t what I’d planned on sharing this week but I’m sitting here between a Palm Springs sandwich of sorts. We just sent the March issue of Rock n Roll Bride Magazine to print yesterday which has an 11 page feature of my vow renewal photographed in Palm Springs but I can’t share it quite yet. And then, I’ve been hard at work on a travel guide dedicated to the city but it’s not quite finished — and I don’t believe in half-assing anything, especially when it comes to my adopted home away from home.

Nubby Twiglet | It's Always Sunny In Palm Springs

Instead of feeling frustration, I started thinking….and remembered that we’d shot a fourth look the day of the vow renewal. There was an open 10 minute span of time after I’d changed out of my wedding dress. The sun was shining after an overcast morning and I felt a sense of relief since the photos we’d needed for the magazine were done. I changed into something less confining —a very mod, citrusy striped dress from ASOS and walked around the corner from our rented house.

The cacti were taller than I was and I draped my Kate Spade license plate bag around one of them. It was a Monday but time stood still. “This is where I want to be,” I thought to myself.

Nubby Twiglet | It's Always Sunny In Palm Springs

I’ve been very vocal about my love of Palm Springs since I first visited four years ago and set a goal by the end of this year to buy something, anything in town.

Joey and I have a meeting with the bank at the end of the month to see where we stand. When I left the comforts of a full-time job and started working for myself three years ago in an all-or-nothing move, I knew that I’d have to work harder than I ever had before and made a pact with myself so I didn’t burn out under the weight of it all. There had to be a bigger goal to strive towards, beyond just building a business. There had to be a way to have a tiny vacation spot, a place to go and “retire” to for two weeks at a time.

Nubby Twiglet | It's Always Sunny In Palm Springs

Nubby Twiglet | It's Always Sunny In Palm Springs

I didn’t want to wait until I was 60 or older to feel the relief and the relaxation that comes with being able to wind down after a career. Instead, I set a goal of 35. I never saw myself as the type that would ever need a permanent escape from my job, anyway. I just knew I would need breaks here and there to recharge.

Nubby Twiglet | It's Always Sunny In Palm Springs

Right now, we’re going back and forth between whether we should buy a small condo that doesn’t need much work or a total fixer-upper of a house that needs to be completely torn apart and remodeled. Joey has remodeled most of our Portland house himself and loves the art of transformation so we’re leaning towards the latter. I don’t know how things will turn out but I’ll let you know what happens.

This phase of my life is definitely taking on a “choose your own adventure” vibe. Each choice will entail a different path. It’s a little nerve-wracking but also really exciting. I’m ready.

Nubby Twiglet | It's Always Sunny In Palm Springs

Now, it’s your turn: Where’s your happy place? What’s that one place you’ve traveled to or want to visit….and wouldn’t mind living?


Photos: Made U Look.

Taking A Trip WAY Back To Collages and Notebooks. Hello, 2000!

Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

Last night, I pulled out an old hard drive and started digging deep for some ancient photos that I ended up not finding…because a decade ago, I didn’t yet understand the fine art of file organization!

Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

All that digging ended up paying off in an unexpected way when I found a treasure trove of hand-collaged pages I used to put together in an oversized sketchbook I’d christened the Fashion Notebook. The Fashion Notebook was my style bible I kept from 2000 to around 2008.

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Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

Long before Pinterest existed, I’d spend my nights and weekends collaging into the Fashion Notebook, pulling pages of inspiration from the stacks of fashion magazines I always had in my room. To give the pages structure, the focus was always on specific themes, whether it was all black and white, a pop color or a style I was draw to, like plaid, stripes or polkadots.

Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

I started these collages years before I was a graphic designer and in a way, making these layouts trained my eye to zoom in on specific details and play around with compositions long before I knew what the “rules” were. There’s nothing like the art of exploration with no clients, no deadlines and really, nobody watching (social media wasn’t around yet).

Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

Nubby Twiglet | Fashion Notebook

It was pure and fun. There were no likes, there were no followers. Looking back, it’s so nice to have something from those years. I actually still have the notebook here in my office and it’s tattered but somehow intact after many moves.

I miss the OG Pinterest! Did any of you keep similar notebooks / scrapbooks?

Thanks for taking this trip down memory lane with me!

Here’s to creating…just for fun.