The Secret Society of Lady Bloggers
by Nubby, 08.23.08 at 8:04 am :: permalink :: rss
A few days ago, this question (and the resulting commentary) popped up on Ask.Metafilter. I was considering not posting about in on here at all but a few things kept turning in my mind so I thought I’d add my two cents.
Personality-based blogging by females is nothing new. Pioneers of this movement like Heather Armstrong of dooce have been doing it for years and are very successful at it.
Personally, it was fascinating to read about a group of girls that I’m friends with from the perspective of an outsider. Most of the time, I don’t notice our similarities but after reading the commentary, it seems natural that a group of friends would share ideas and inspire one another (and that others would take notice over time).

The knuckle tattoos are so for real, people.
What I admire most about this collective group of girls is that they’re all positive, hillarious and creative. Gala is a writer, Star is an illustrator and CSS ninja, Gilda is an aspiring fashion designer, I’m a graphic designer and Marie can make you laugh so hard that wetting your pants is inevitable (and, anyone that rocks a corn suit is good in my book).
The main thing that should be stressed about these girls is their authenticity. Without authenticity (both in real life and on a blog), there really isn’t much left to stand on. Even on the internet, people can see through a facade a mile away. One of the reasons that they are inspiring is because they’re living out their dreams every day and have the courage to write about it. Being happy with your life and where you’re going is a pretty awesome feeling. Positivity coupled with strong personalities and a sense of humor is infectious and it’s no coincidence that they’ve been successful in sharing their anecdotes and advice.
Of course, this isn’t a unique phenomenon. It’s probably not a subtrend, either. There are over 110 million blogs out there. A handful of blogging friends with similar interests isn’t necessarily a movement. While I would never consider myself to be part of ‘the next big thing’ (that’s dated and gross), blogging definitely is. Blogging has come a long way since I started out in 2001. With much better platforms and plugins, it’s no wonder people are embracing it.
The interesting part of the equation is that a few of us ran personal blogs for many years on Live Journal. Five or so years ago, it was a hotbed of activity. But by 2006, the momentum and interaction on Live Journal seemed to be fizzling. Some of us began jumping ship to blogs hosted on our own domains. I still love Live Journal and keep a blog on there, but these days, it feels like a ghost town.
The similarities in design and formatting between a few of us that the original question brought up isn’t an accident either; it’s due in part to collaborative efforts. Star built both my site as well as her own and I’m in the process of working on logos for some of the other girls. It’s pretty cool to be surrounded by a group that’s always willing to help one another out.
My goal in writing this isn’t to come off as self-posturing or arrogant. In a way, I’m glad that the original question was asked because it’s generated some fantastic commentary and I’m all for girls bonding with one another and creating positive content that they’re proud of. I’m inspired by others who choose to live their lives with no regrets, follow their dreams and stay positive while doing it. We’re not the first (or only) group of girls doing this and definitely not the last. Thanks for listening.
Extra reading:
1. Raise your hand if you’re a lady blogger! by Gilda
2. We’ve Been Outed! (Or, that Metafilter Thing) by Star
3. Fight Club, Lady Blogger Style? by Marie
4. How Friendrank Will Come to Blogging by Ben Barren





P.S. The Secret Society of Lady Bloggers is supposed to be funny, not some exclusive and secretive clique. It’s a riff on the obvious.
Also, I wrote this article about a group of fashionable teens that were just profiled in the NY Times that runs in a similar vein.
August 23rd, 2008 at 12:09 pm
I think it’s fabulous! I wouldn’t go as far as to call you all a “movement”, but you’re definitely inspiring. It gives me hope for following my passion over the next few years.
August 23rd, 2008 at 12:20 pm
I hope that most most readers catch that The Secret Society of Lady Bloggers is a bit tongue-in-cheek; I will admit, when I saw it written at first, I tended to go, ‘oh… is that a good idea?’
Because there are millions of blogs, which is amazing in itself, but it opens up discourse to all people. And having seen the sheer number of young women (as young as the the low teens) who read both your blog and Gala’s, I couldn’t help but worry that there are going to be a few who
just don’t get it. (heck, I’ve got two young nieces I think often of — I’d love to see them grow up to be bold, bright, articulate, and intelligent, but I fear that misunderstood exclusion would keep them from participating)
That being said, I’ve been proud of reading all of the lovely ladies’ blogs about the Meta-filter article. I think everyone’s responses have been thoughtful, intelligent, humorous — not at all arrogant or self-posturing as you worry.
August 23rd, 2008 at 1:01 pm
I think the blogs mentioned are the OG group of lady bloggers, & I think all of you have authenticity & are very different from one another.
I have noticed that there are a lot of new blogs popping up that are very similar to Gala’s. I think it was mentioned in the metafilter comments that Doe Deere’s layout & content is essentially a rip-off of her blog.
There are a few others that I have seen; I don’t want to make anyone feel bad though because I think it’s rad that these girls have found an outlet for self-expression & to share their life. I guess, personally, I would feel uncomfortable having a blog that so closely imitates my inspiration.
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August 23rd, 2008 at 3:13 pm
don’t you think this topic is getting a little crazy? i’m so over it actually! i’d rather have some hot chocolate!
August 23rd, 2008 at 4:07 pm
Hallo! Looks like I’ve stirred up a shitstorm!
Thanks for all your responses. It’s great to hear your perspective too. Rachel touches on what I wanted to say too - that there are people that have noticed you guys and are taking inspiration from you without necessarily knowing you. The friends thing was new to me, hehe.
Take care!
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August 24th, 2008 at 2:36 am
This is the question you should ask yourself if you have a blog…At the end of the day, what do you want to be remembered for? Does your blog reflect your purpose?
I feel so blessed to be a part of the blogging community. I have learned so much from the lady bloggers. My blog is quite different from theirs, more self help and zero fashion/design, helping those and myself who are going through our quarter life phase.
Strong women have a voice that needs to be heard and the internet helps us do that.
Women Bloggers Unite!
Portland Bloggers work it out
Cheers love. Pamela
August 24th, 2008 at 10:51 am
Through Star’s blog I found you and Gala, and have been a regular reader for all three of you for some time. Now through this post I have two new lady bloggers to add to my weekly perusing list.
Not only are each of you talented and inspirational on your own, but catching tidbits of your globe-crossing friendships and seeing how you support each other truly adds heart, personality, and solidarity to the mix. I’m glad that someone out there recognized your diverse yet intertwined crew of Lady Bloggers and thought to spread the word. Cheers!
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