Criticism and flat-out meanness stingsâ€¦and weâ€™ve all been on the receiving end of it.
This topic has been back on my mind a lot lately because I see negativity everywhere. Whether itâ€™s a rude comment left on the video of a Youtuber or a nasty one-liner left on an Instagram post, I cringe because firstly, artistic expression of any kind boils down to personal taste. Secondly, I think about how much confidence it takes to release work for public consumption in the first place, which is so easy to forget.
Maybe all the senseless violence lately has me feeling extra sensitive (2 incidents just happened while I was in Florida last week) but the world needs more compassion and caring. We can each do our own part in spreading positivity and being supportive, no matter how small it may seem.
When I think of sharing, this quote from Taylor Swift comes to mind:
â€œWe don’t need to share the same opinions as others, but we need to be respectful.â€
The fear of judgement is real when youâ€™re sharing. I speak from personal experience when I say that praise from people I donâ€™t even know feels like the ultimate adrenaline rush but on the flip side, just one negative comment can tear it all back down.
Iâ€™ve written thousands of blog posts, shared tens of thousands of photos and released hundreds of projects and the only reason I mention this is because sometimes I think that over time, it should feel easier to put it all out there. But sometimes, I still feel like retreating.
Part of being human comes with vulnerability and a personal attachment to your work.
The one truth we can all agree on is that as creatives, whether youâ€™re writing your first book, creating a logo for a client, filming a makeup tutorial or putting together a solo art show, it all comes from the same place: your heart.
Not sharing your work and expressing who you are in the short term is easier but in the long term, youâ€™re only hurting yourself.
If the fear of rejection is holding you back, always remember:
1. Not everyone will love what you do. Itâ€™s as simple as that. A body of work, no matter how brilliant, is never universally loved. Accepting this from the start makes putting yourself out there easier.
2. You are the only person who can produce creative work in your own, unique way. There is power in what you doâ€¦so own it fully. Trust yourself.
3. If your work elicits a reaction of any kind, thatâ€™s good. Art should do that. Attracting and repelling is necessary, even though it can be uncomfortable.
Sharing your work and who you are on some days feels harder than others. Sometimes Iâ€™ll sit on a blog post an extra week because Iâ€™m afraid to release the words. There are also times Iâ€™m scared that a client will hate everything Iâ€™ve just created. But after giving the content space, I always hit publish / share / send because buying into fear is never worth it.
Always remember, you are brilliant in your own unique way and any negativity coming your way usually isnâ€™t even really about you. Remind yourself that you never really know what the person on the other side is going through.
Leave your mark. Keep sharing and keep shining bright. And most importantly, pay it forward and support those around you who are brave enough to put themselves out there.
Positivity drives more positivity and we definitely need more of that in this world right now.
I believe in you.
Photo: Made U Look.